Myths About Male Sexual Abuse Victims

Sexual Abuse in Men is Common

One out of every ten rape victims are male. The stigma and lack of reporting keep men feeling powerless. Trees of Hope can help!

Sexual assault is often seen as a crime predominantly against women. However, it is equally devastating to men and happens more frequently than people think. Regardless of gender identity, sexual abuse survivors can feel rage, shame, guilt, powerlessness, fear for physical safety, and suffering in silence. The truth is that 28% of males who experience sexual assault will have done so before their tenth birthday. And out of those assaults, a third of their assailants will themselves be children. 

There is a stigma to speaking up vulnerably about male sexual assault or even sexualized hazing, often found among all-male groups like sports teams or fraternal organizations. There are unique challenges men face when opening up about this topic. They may be reluctant to seek medical attention. They can doubt their masculinity or may be hesitant to seek support for fear of looking weak or not being believed. Men may even face ridicule from friends and family for seeking support. 

Sexual assault against men is a serious issue, and it's essential to dispel myths that can contribute to misunderstandings and stigma surrounding this issue. Here are some common myths about sexual assault against men:

Myth: Men can't be victims of sexual assault.

Fact: Sexual assault can happen to anyone, regardless of gender. Men can and do experience sexual assault, and it's essential to recognize and address their experiences.

Myth: Men always want sex, so they can't be unwilling participants.

Fact: Consent is a crucial aspect of any sexual activity. Regardless of gender, individuals have the right to control what happens to their bodies. Men can be unwilling participants in sexual activities and can experience trauma as a result. They are not “less of a man” for not wanting to engage in sexual activity.

Myth: Sexual assault only involves physical force.

Fact: Sexual assault can take various forms, including coercion, manipulation, and verbal threats. It doesn't always involve physical force, and the absence of physical resistance does not imply consent. Just like women, men can freeze during sexual assault. Drugs, alcohol, the threat of violence, or the presence of a weapon can also prevent a man from fighting their assailant.

Myth: Men who are sexually assaulted are weak or less masculine.

Fact: Experiencing sexual assault has nothing to do with an individual's strength, masculinity, or perceived toughness. Victims of sexual assault come from diverse backgrounds and encompass various strengths and characteristics. 

Myth: Men cannot be traumatized by sexual assault.

Fact: Sexual assault can cause significant trauma for men, affecting their mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical well-being. It is crucial to recognize and support survivors in their healing journey. Trees of Hope offers resources for male survivors. 

Myth: Sexual assault against men is rare.

Fact: Due to underreporting and stigma, the true prevalence of sexual abuse against men is likely higher than reported statistics indicate.

Myth: Men cannot be raped by women.

Fact: Sexual assault can be perpetrated by individuals of any gender. Unwanted sexual contact encompasses more than just penetration. It's critical to recognize that both men and women can be survivors and perpetrators of sexual violence. 

Myth: Erections or orgasms during sexual assault indicate consent.

Fact: Physiological responses like erections or orgasms can occur during sexual assault due to the body's involuntary responses. They do not imply consent or enjoyment and should not be used to invalidate a victim's experience.

Myth: Only gay men are victims of male sexual assault.

Fact: Sexual assault can happen to men of any sexual orientation. Perpetrators target individuals based on vulnerability and power dynamics, not on sexual orientation.

It's crucial to challenge these myths and foster an understanding that sexual assault can affect anyone, regardless of gender. Support and empathy, without judgment, are essential for survivors. Trees of Hope offers resources for male sexual abuse survivors that serve as an initial step on your path to healing. 

The Renew Online course is tailored specifically for men to address sexual abuse. Offering a secure platform, Renew Online provides men with essential resources and techniques to facilitate the healing process. The Renew Healing Study and workbook are designed to help men who have experienced sexual abuse find restoration and peace.

For survivors of sexual abuse, trauma-informed therapy is essential for addressing and managing mental health challenges. Trees of Hope has collaborated with Hope Christian Counseling to offer virtual or in-person one-on-one counseling sessions.